We Interrupt This Program For The Following Important Announcement:

Stuff has happened in blog land lately that has had a big effect on me, and others.I removed some posts. I took down my blog for a little while. I had/have alot to say, but I'm not going to. Because at the end of the day, it's just not worth it. I dont want to stir up any more shit. I didnt want to stir any in the first place, which is where the whole thing started.

So despite this being my blog, and full of my stuff, and all about me, and my constant ravings about not giving a crap if others like/dislike what I write, and so on, well......... I'm letting it all just blow over. This is all I have to say on the issue.

My life is so totally different now to how it was. Theres alot that could be said about it, and would be said if people asked and deserved to hear it. But a blog is not the appropriate place for that. And at the end of the day, IRL people are all that matters. Really. If you think about it.

Friendships online can be nice, rewarding, and important. But they can only go so far. Things need to be kept in proportion, bathed in a dose of reality. What you see on a screen is not the sum of a person, or their life. No matter how open they may be about some parts (and lord knows I can really lay things bare sometimes) but other parts are hidden. And you cant presume to know someone properly from their blog. Maybe you can never really know anyone at all.

Who has never been cheated on by someone they loved and thought was faithful? Who has never learnt something about a family member that for many years they never suspected? (like my cousin who is apparently a lesbian)

I can be a very what-you-see-is-what-you-get person. And then I can also hide really big things (like my heavy post a little while ago that even some people close to me IRL have no idea about).

Its my decision what to share, and what not to. And I have my reasons for both. You might not like them or agree with them, but hey, thats life. Nobody gets what they want all the time. Nothing and no-one are perfect.

Ive expressed my views, explained myself, and asked a lot of questions about alot of things this week. It feels like a cross between "Dr Phil" and "Why Is It So?" (and doesnt THAT show how old I am? lol) The answers have been surprising, and revealing.

So, readers. If you have a question, ask me. Blog appropriate ones can be in comments. Non-Blog appropriate ones should be emailed. I've added my email to the sidebar for exactly that reason (although it was always on my profile). Just be prepared that when you ask questions, you dont ALWAYS get an answer. And privacy should always be respected. If I havent written about it here, dont discuss it here. There is probably a reason why it wasnt said on my blog.

Life isnt fair. For anyone. Shit happens. People make mistakes. Things go wrong. Not everything goes to plan.

Blogging and being online in general have different rules to the real world. Sure, they are based on the same frame, but they are different places.You dont really know anyone on here. So you dont know why they do what they do. And I dont know how you will react to it. So we all guess.

I, for one, am tired of guessing games. I'm tired of the "high school" mentality. I'm tired of blog politics, circle jerk parties, fishing expeditions, and band wagons. I dont like clicks, flame wars, outing peoples personal details, trolls, or any of the other bullshit that goes on in the real world but is hyped up into overdrive on the net.

So I'm removing my blog roll. I'm publishing my email. And not bothering to engage in any of that crap above. Feel free to say/ask/do whatever. Just dont think you know everything about me from whats on my blog. And dont go being surprised if I tell you to shove off.

Im just me, doing my thing, trying to be a better person, and trying not to damage anyone along the way. Read me/Dont read me. Like me/Hate me. Comment/Lurk.

whatevs.

We now return you to your regular broadcast.....